Friday, November 16, 2012

American Flag Etiquette


Flag Etiquette





STANDARDS of RESPECT
The Flag Code, which formalizes and unifies the traditional ways in which we give respect to the flag, also contains specific instructions on how the flag is not to be used. They are:
  • The flag should never be dipped to any person or thing. It is flown upside down only as a distress signal.
  • The flag should not be used as a drapery, or for covering a speakers desk, draping a platform, or for any decoration in general. Bunting of blue, white and red stripes is available for these purposes. The blue stripe of the bunting should be on the top.
  • The flag should never be used for any advertising purpose. It should not be embroidered, printed or otherwise impressed on such articles as cushions, handkerchiefs, napkins, boxes, or anything intended to be discarded after temporary use. Advertising signs should not be attached to the staff or halyard
  • The flag should not be used as part of a costume or athletic uniform, except that a flag patch may be used on the uniform of military personnel, fireman, policeman and members of patriotic organizations.
  • The flag should never have placed on it, or attached to it, any mark, insignia, letter, word, number, figure, or drawing of any kind.
  • The flag should never be used as a receptacle for receiving, holding, carrying, or delivering anything.
When the flag is lowered, no part of it should touch the ground or any other object; it should be received by waiting hands and arms. To store the flag it should be folded neatly and ceremoniously.
The flag should be cleaned and mended when necessary.
When a flag is so worn it is no longer fit to serve as a symbol of our country, it should be destroyed by burning in a dignified manner.





Note: Most American Legion Posts regularly conduct a dignified flag burning ceremony, often on Flag Day, June 14th. Many Cub Scout Packs, Boy Scout Troops, and Girl Scout Troops retire flags regularly as well. Contact your local American Legion Hall or Scout Troop to inquire about the availability of this service.





Displaying the Flag Outdoors
When the flag is displayed from a staff projecting from a window, balcony, or a building, the union should be at the peak of the staff unless the flag is at half staff.
When it is displayed from the same flagpole with another flag - of a state, community, society or Scout unit - the flag of the United States must always be at the top except that the church pennant may be flown above the flag during church services for Navy personnel when conducted by a Naval chaplain on a ship at sea.
When the flag is displayed over a street, it should be hung vertically, with the union to the north or east. If the flag is suspended over a sidewalk, the flag's union should be farthest from the building.
When flown with flags of states, communities, or societies on separate flag poles which are of the same height and in a straight line, the flag of the United States is always placed in the position of honor - to its own right.
..The other flags may be smaller but none may be larger.
..No other flag ever should be placed above it.
..The flag of the United States is always the first flag raised and the last to be lowered.
When flown with the national banner of other countries, each flag must be displayed from a separate pole of the same height. Each flag should be the same size. They should be raised and lowered simultaneously. The flag of one nation may not be displayed above that of another nation.

Raising and Lowering the Flag
The flag should be raised briskly and lowered slowly and ceremoniously. Ordinarily it should be displayed only between sunrise and sunset. It should be illuminated if displayed at night.
The flag of the United States of America is saluted as it is hoisted and lowered. The salute is held until the flag is unsnapped from the halyard or through the last note of music, whichever is the longest.

Displaying the Flag Indoors
When on display, the flag is accorded the place of honor, always positioned to its own right. Place it to the right of the speaker or staging area or sanctuary. Other flags should be to the left.
The flag of the United States of America should be at the center and at the highest point of the group when a number of flags of states, localities, or societies are grouped for display.
When one flag is used with the flag of the United States of America and the staffs are crossed, the flag of the United States is placed on its own right with its staff in front of the other flag.
When displaying the flag against a wall, vertically or horizontally, the flag's union (stars) should be at the top, to the flag's own right, and to the observer's left.

Parading and Saluting the Flag
When carried in a procession, the flag should be to the right of the marchers. When other flags are carried, the flag of the United States may be centered in front of the others or carried to their right. When the flag passes in a procession, or when it is hoisted or lowered, all should face the flag and salute.

The Salute
To salute, all persons come to attention. Those in uniform give the appropriate formal salute. Citizens not in uniform salute by placing their right hand over the heart and men with head cover should remove it and hold it to left shoulder, hand over the heart. Members of organizations in formation salute upon command of the person in charge.

The Pledge of Allegiance and National Anthem
The pledge of allegiance should be rendered by standing at attention, facing the flag, and saluting.
When the national anthem is played or sung, citizens should stand at attention and salute at the first note and hold the salute through the last note. The salute is directed to the flag, if displayed, otherwise to the music.

The Flag in Mourning
To place the flag at half staff, hoist it to the peak for an instant and lower it to a position half way between the top and bottom of the staff. The flag is to be raised again to the peak for a moment before it is lowered. On Memorial Day the flag is displayed at half staff until noon and at full staff from noon to sunset.
The flag is to be flown at half staff in mourning for designated, principal government leaders and upon presidential or gubernatorial order.

When used to cover a casket, the flag should be placed with the union at the head and over the left shoulder. It should not be lowered into the grave.

Monday, November 12, 2012

Wise is the woman who lives by the principle

that if she is not satisfied with what she has,

 she will never be satisfied with what she wants.






Ummmm....Not sure I'm strong enough.


By: Me

Quiet Grace

I have always wondered how Daddy interacted with these kids. And where were they?  A school?  A City? I love the look on his face. So young and happy in the moment taking in the world with his quiet grace. 
Have a great Veteran's Day Weekend.

(Daddy, World War II Navy)

Oceans

I've always loved this photo from Daddy's Naval ship. The rough water with the ship in the distance. Such a picture which in my mind is all-encompassing of WWII.


Thursday, November 1, 2012

Shy?



Often many people confuse shyness with introversion.  They are not the same thing though many think they are.  Introverts may be shy but generally they are not.  Mostly they are loners-or prefer to generally do things alone.  They are more reserved, not as outgoing as others and may have fewer friends, mostly from preference.  Many times they prefer to do more on their own and put less importance on social activities.  Introverts generally do better in situations/work when they are alone.  It’s not that they are shy, that is just how they like life to be.

Extraverts are outgoing, very social, daring, speak their mind more readily, and enjoy excitement.  They like being involved with other people and do not perform as well in situations/work where they are alone.  My husband is the perfect example of an extravert.

Those who are shy usually are not introverted.  Most people lump the two together and assume they are the same thing, but again, they are not.  Shy people very, very much want to be a part of the “social” scene and have friends.  But they may not have the social skills or may have a personality that leans towards shyness.  This can set up hardship for them to be involved with others socially.

I’ve taken the Myer’s Brigg test several times throughout my life.  I am always split exactly down the middle of being an extravert and introvert.  My behavior for each depends on the situation in which I’m involved.  But the thing I am the most positive about is my shyness, which is not tested for as part of the Myer's Brigg.  Shyness has been an extremely difficult thing for me to deal with my entire life.   

When I was small I was outgoing, spoiled and a huge pest—to a certain age.  Then shyness took over with extended family and then more so with people I didn’t know.  I think I was shy to some extent in some situations from as long as I can remember.  I can remember hiding behind my mother from shyness.   The shyness became worse after my brother died when I was 7.  Then other things through teen years, which are hard years anyway, added to the problem.  I always desperately wanted to be more social, to have more friends.  But I was petrified of certain situations and hated school. (I could write a whole book on hating school, book 5.) 

It is a hard thing to admit you’re shy.  Shy people are often seen as weak. I’m afraid some people perceive me as aloof or not friendly.  At times in my life people have told me they heard I wasn’t a friendly person.  It hurts to be perceived in that way, mostly because I do care so deeply for everyone, even those I do not know.  Hence the reason I was a social worker for so many years.

After I know someone the shyness usually wears off.  But until then it’s very hard for me to get involved in social situations.  Chris has been great blessing for me.  He puts me at ease by taking center stage in social situations and he does things I would never do.   To an extent I can live vicariously through him.  Chris is very much a social butterfly!!  Whereas I am the wall-flower. 

I can I remember when my momma worked as a teacher’s aid while I was in high school.  She worked at the vocational school with the resource class.  Everyday they walked to my high school to have lunch.  My momma told me one day I was a wall flower—she had seen me from a distance down a hallway.  Momma said I just blended into the wall.   She often worried about my bashfulness.  

While in high school I had several teachers tell me “Oh, Marna, I wish all my students were like you.  Never talking too much in class.”  Of course I didn’t.  Even if I had a question I would never raise my hand.  Then I went to college.  I had a professor who told me one day that she wished I would speak out more in class.   I told her what some of my high school teachers had said to me, which I always took as a compliment.  She said, “Oh, no!  Marna I want to hear your opinion.  I want you to contribute.”

My oldest sister raised horses and I have always loved them.  A few years after Chris and I were married I began competing in some horse shows.  I really enjoyed being at home and getting ready with my horse.  And enjoyed some aspects of the shows.  Especially how great and friendly everyone was.  However I’m just not competitive and I think some of that stems from my shyness.  I didn’t like the feeling I got when I won nor did I like the feeling when I lost.  When I was young my momma would always try and get me to try different clubs and activities.  I never stayed with anything over a couple of years.  Which I think is similar to my horse show experiences—I was too shy to enjoy competition.

Nowadays, I think my mother in Heaven looks down on amazement that I actually managed to conquer many fears related to shyness and graduate with my Master’s Degree and only lacking 6 hours of course work toward a second.  Especially after the hard time I gave her about hating school and being so bashful.  (I think shyness will be the sixth book I’ll write.  Now, where is my ghostwriter……)

Shyness, bashfulness, being backward will always be an issue for me.  Sometimes a situation is easier to fight my way through than others and I win.  But sometimes I lose.  The key is that the older I get the easier it is for me to cope with those times I’ve lost.

(Photo of me as a baby.)

Monday, October 29, 2012

Life Lessons. Heaven.


After watching "Chasing Mavericks" last night I started thinking about life lessons.  The boy learning from his mentor.  His mentor learning from his student.  

My brother Gary died in 1979 when I was 7, nearly 8, in a jeep accident.  I was worried Gary had suffered and being so small questioned what happens after death. My momma and I had a lot of talks, about Heaven and God.  Talks a momma has with a child, a little girl.  

One day I asked momma what she thought Gary did in Heaven all day.  We talked about how he loved to fish and go jeep riding in the mountains.  Momma told me not to worry about Gary.  God had made Gary perfect and he was waiting for us all.    

When I was small I didn't like to read and liked studying even less.  Momma and I were talking about what we were going to do once we got to Heaven.  I told her that I wanted God to have a movie ready for me about the Bible.  That way I could watch the movie and not have to read the Bible stories.  Momma said "Oh no!  Not me.  I want to walk everywhere and see everything."  When momma died in 1990 I told Chris that I knew what she was doing.  She was walking, visiting, and seeing everything, everywhere.  

The past couple of years momma's talks about God and Heaven have seen me through some trying times.  Times where I learned that sitting and watching a movie are not the things I'd want to do anymore when the time rolls around.  Walking, visiting, and seeing everything, everywhere is more like it.  That and worshiping a God who has blessed me in so many rich and wonderful ways though I'm deserving of none.  One of the best of those blessing, a momma who took time in deep sorrow over the loss of a precious son to still my fears and offer comfort over loss.





Early 1970's - My brother Gary & friends
 They loved going 4-wheeling when it snowed
 


Early 1970's-Chris and I almost fell
into one of these one time with my Toyota
4 wheel drive truck in 1991



Early 1970's - My brother Gary and his friends.
Can you say stuck?



Early 1970's-sometimes they'd have 20 jeeps


Early 1970's. Gary and his friends
had so much fun!

Poem-There Once Was a Woman....

There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she only had three hairs on her head. “Well”, she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today.” So she did and she had a wonderful day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. “Hmmm”, she said, “I think I’ll part my hair down the 

middle today.” So she did and she had a grand day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. “Well”, she said, “Today I’m going to wear my hair in a pony tail.” So she did, and she had a fun, fun day.

The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn’t a single hair on her head. “YAY!” she exclaimed. “I don’t have to fix my hair today!”

Anonymous



Chris and I in Miami.  December 2010.
Last radiation treatment when we came home from the cruise.  First time in public with no scarf. 
 I wasn't going to wear that yucky thing in the Bahamas! 





Arrow

Caught the last 15 minutes of the new show "Arrow". The main guy and his dad were stranded in the sea on a floating raft. The man told his son that there wasn't enough room for them all to survive and then killed himself. I asked Chris, "Would you jump off a raft in shark infested waters off the coast of Africa to save me from certain death?" Chris, "Sure".


Here Comes the Boom

We watched "Here Comes the Boom" at the movies today.  It was cute and fun.  But one I should have waited to rent at home.  I'm pretty picky about movies.


Africa

Our lights flashed on a buck in a field tonight. Chris turned around and put the car lights toward it. Another deer was about twenty feet from the first. They started walking toward each other but stopped quick. A very aggravated skunk was between them! I told Chris that this is what Africa would be like. Chris said "I'm not going to Africa. It's like 24 hours in a plane and we could crash and die." I said "Oh, who do you know that has crashed and died on a plane ride to Africa?" Chris replied "us".




"Chasing Mavericks"

Chris and I watched "Chasing Mavericks" this weekend at the movies.  I really enjoyed the movie immensely.  The relationships of characters were very complex.  This was much more than a surfer dude movie.  Deep lessons of life are learned as is the strength of one young man and the ability of an older man to open himself into a position of mentoring as a type of father. Highly recommend watching!



Fear vs Panic

"Fear and panic are two separate emotions. Fear's healthy. Panic's deadly." 

-"Chasing Mavericks"




"The Descendants"

Chris was watching George Clooney run down the street in the movie "The Descendants". Chris said "He isn't very athletic is he?" I said "he isn't as bad as me, I mean, I'm more athletic than that, right?" Chris said "Yeah, um, yup, um.... no."




Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Lynette's Birthday at Dollywood

Great afternoon at Dollywood with my sister Lynette, niece Jessie and great niece and nephew Mallie Belle and Jack. Dollywood is one of Lynette's favorite places so it was nice to be there on a gorgeous fall day for her birthday.



Saturday, October 20, 2012

Chick flicks

I LOVE MOVIES!  
Here are a few of my favorite chick-flick movies, in no particular order.


Chris calls me Diane Keaton because
I love turtlenecks.

Not a Kelly Preston fan but love
this movie. No one plays a
better ball player
 than Kevin Costner.

So cute!  

Co-Stars made this movie great!

Love the dress on the cover!

My favorite Kate Hudson movie. 
Matt M is pretty great too!

Why do I like her movies so much?
The good ones are good....
the bad ones are, well, bad.

Love hockey!
So of course love this movie.

The models in "Head over Heels"
 are so funny!

This movie is why
I have the "Diesel" dog.

Cute. Enjoyed.

A silly teen movie. But I liked it.

Crude. 
LOVE Gerard Butler though.

One of my favorite
all time movies!!!!

Probably wouldn't have liked
this movie if Emma Stone
wasn't in it.

Reese's best movie.

Who couldn't love "Serendipity"? 
Cool name and Kate B and John C are in it.

Who would've thought this
two actors would make a
good movie together?
But they did.

Love, love, love! 
Could I please have Ashley Judd's
clothing and hairstylist? 
Just for a month.
I'd be happy with that.

Not her best but the baby vomit
is so funny.  And the actress,
 can't remember her name,
which plays the sister-in-law.
Love her.

Watching right now. Love!

Old Family Photos

Photos of my Momma and Daddy and their families. I have a rich heritage older than my years.  Being a oops baby, a late in lifer, has attributed to this.  My parents lived through horrible hard times in America and my Daddy was a WWII Naval Vet.  So proud to have been able to call them Mom and Dad.



From Daddy's Naval Ship WWII-photo I've always felt is all
encompassing of WWII in the Pacific.

Daddy WWII - always wondered how Janie got her name?

Daddy-downtown Madisonville-I think...

WWII Pacific-from Daddy's ship

WWII Pacific-from Daddy's ship

China WWII-I've always wondered where this was and who the kids were

My Daddy's daddy and his brother

China WWII-always have loved this photo

WWII Pacific-from Daddy's ship

WWII-Daddy. He looks so lil

WWII Pacific-from Daddy's ship

US Naval China-WWII

Great Granddad-sheep herding far from TN in Idaho

Daddy's dad and others

Momma-church

Daddy at Decoration at Hopewell graveyard-Decoration Day
one of my favorite days of the year!  We always got a new dress
and visited with friends and relatives all day.

Daddy

Momma on right and her friends. I love this pic. 

Momma

Daddy and my sister. My fav photo of Daddy-love his expression.

Momma

Momma

Some of Momma's brothers and sisters

Momma's momma and daddy and some of her brothers and sisters. I think
this was the three or four room house they lived in for a number of years??
But not sure. Wish I knew more of their history.  I loved listening when I
was small.

Momma back upper left and her brother O'Neil beside her.

Momma-she was always so graceful

Momma 49-50 school year-maybe she was 8th grade or
freshman here....I think? Look at those pin curls!!

Daddy and friend after a car wreck

Daddy third from left

Momma and her little brothers

Daddy with some of Momma's family in their cotton field

Daddy with some of Momma's family in their cotton field

My brother being held up by two of Momma's brothers.

My brother Gary

My brother and sister Sharon

Daddy, Gary, Sharon, and Momma


One of my favorites!  Love the car seat my sister Lynette is in! Oh My!

My FAVORITE photo of all time...and of course
favorite of momma and daddy

Second favorite photo of all time.  Utterly beautiful
in my eyes.  Momma was a soph in HS. Her expression
is in many ways unlike the Mom I knew.

Momma with sis on pony and sister on ground.  Brother holding horse? Look
at those bare feet around the pony!  OUCH if there had been a mis-step!!!



Not an old family photo. This is me and Daddy at my 1995 college graduation from TN Wesleyan College. Wish
Momma had been there to see.....Education was so important to them.  Back in their days it wasn't possible.  HS wasn't possible for many.  I think Daddy had to quit in the 8th grade to help support family. Oh I wish Momma was
here to fill in the gaps of the history she passed on to me so long ago.....I love history and I love that my family played  in the time of history they did. A very historical and important time in American.