Wednesday, December 2, 2015

My cowgirl hat...

To sell or not to sell...that is the question.   I'll never show again, and only wore the cowgirl hat a handful of timed so really no reason to keep a beautiful Serratelli in a box.  With it's 30x felt and perfect silver and rubies on the brim.


I'm a people watcher.  All my life.  When Chris is out of town and I eat alone, or even with a group I often notice that there is at least one cell phone at a table.  Usually more.  Often everyone at the table is busy typing away.  And the ones that don't, look rather miserable.  Or at least bored.

Each person, even those without phones are wrapped up in their private, busy lives.  No one interacting as families need.

Meals together are a chance for conversation between two people or more, of sharing lives, hopes, dreams, continuing and strengthening of friendship which may be dimming with the passage of time.

I wonder how many of those husbands and/or wives are spending precious, fleeting time texting someone else, friends perhaps.  The person, or people, sitting at the table in silence, waiting for conversation that may never come.  Week after week.  Out to eat or in front of a TV.

I'm afraid (because of statistics of broken homes) they are commiserating over a situation of frustration over something in their lives.  Or even the joy of a recent victory.

Instead of commiserating, (what is most often, in my opinion), by text or social media, in person or just good old fashion talking on a phone, with a "friend" male or female, about a situation, couples and families need to share events which will draw together instead of pushing apart.

A family cannot be a family if they do not choose to stay a family.

Remember,  the person or people with whom you are commiserating with will most likely be commiserating with someone else in the future.....probably about you.

Loyalty in a relationship,  any relationship should be of the upmost importance. Trusting, bonding, standing the test of time can only come from loyalty and privacy. Never by commiserating with others.

(In my ghost written book, I'll have a chapter on what I feel is the difference between commiserating, sympathy and empathy.  Personally I’ve always felt commiserating has a negative connotation whereas empathy or sympathy positive.   And one should practice empathy over sympathy.  Of course, once again my writing has verges into left field and not said what I wish to say....)

AB puppies....

I long for a new puppy.   Ever since Diesel then Ada Monroe were gone this year.  I have a deep need to love something and it love back.  I've never in my life been without a dog.

Chris isn't ready for a puppy just yet.  He's home all day so most training would fall upon him.  Even though when customers bring their dogs along for horse back riding lessons he has time for a little dog trickery. (Especially with Heelers.) But spending time working with a friend's dog is much less time consuming than your own.

I will continuing yearning and try not to be jealous of the time spent on others than a new one of ours..... (Hear that Trousers. The wallet thief and possum killing bandit.)

AB litter in California....
Aw, puppy breath...